Christmas was a few days ago, hmm what to say. Well I don't love the holidays. Starting with Angst-giving until new years day . It' stressful, anxiety attack giving stress. I hate being phony & I have to sit around a table of people I don't like & try to act happy. Angst giving is two days of cooking & 40 minutes of eating. Every year my sister law will say did you make enough food? This year was a spiral ham & two boneless turkey breasts & she still said it.
Then it's black Friday, which I actually enjoy. It's a time to hang out with my son without his annoying girlfriend. ( She is banned from going with us). Then the tree goes up the presents get wrapped & before you know it it's Christmas eve.
This year I took 1 1/2 weeks off from work & wouldn't you know it the day before my vacation starts my boss mentions in a meeting how 2020 is going to be hard for our dept & he doesn't know what that will mean for our jobs. I left with a fuck it attitude, it is what it is. I feel like once a month he is telling us this.
Christmas eve my son & his annoying girlfriend came over. We had to hold dinner for her because you know the world revolves around her. She comes in & goes right into my fridge which is a huge pet peeve for me. Thankfully this time my son said you don't just go into peoples refrigerators! She was like well I was looking for something he said then ask! At dinner she regaled us with more of her bullshit stories about things that happened to her when she was younger. Each time the stories get more & more ridiculous & she always winds up being the damsel in distress & some man rescues her.
She slipped & told my husband that my son bought her a laptop & shipped it to her when they were on line dating so they could face time but now it's so old. You can see why I think she just uses him & has from the beginning. So we opened gifts & watched a movie, then they went home. The next morning we went to my mother in laws for brunch & the girlfriend was complaining that 11am is too early. Again she thinks everyone should follow her schedule.
About 40 minutes in my mother in law started using the n word I won't even type it because I won't give it life, but when I said well that took longer than expected. She just started saying it again & again. Then it was about the Mexicans down the block & they dropped off cookies for Christmas. Hmm what are their names, I don't know the Mexicans that moved in last year. Then the house next to her is for sale again 3rd time in two years. Her boyfriend chimes in we better not get dreadlocks again like are on the other side. First off the guy on the other side of her is a DJ & his wife is a nurse & if they can afford a house in her neighborhood God Bless them because it ain't cheap. I said maybe people keep moving out of the other house because of you, think about it you are the only common denominator.
She started gossiping about the neighbor across the street & all her kids are divorced & moving back in. I said well that's their business. The girlfriend chimes in 8 people live in that house. I said why do you care you never even met them. At one point the girlfriend was kissing the mother in laws butt so bad that my husband had enough & called her on it. He said stop kissing her ass, we can all see what you are doing!
Most of the time I sat there silent. taking it all in. It's amazing what you hear.
Like the boyfriend say to my mother in law if she is going to eat like that she is going to have to get on the treadmill tonight, she said It's Christmas I'm not going to, he said yes you will.
The mother in law asking the girlfriend are you making any resolutions & she said I'm always trying to better myself, but in an annoying breathy way. My son said well I'm perfect how I am , I said I agree! The girlfriend just started at me.
The boyfriend talk about how they drive all over the state to buy lottery tickets. I don't think that was supposed to be said in front of us. ( As I said from the beginning she is a cash cow for him)
It drove my mother in law crazy that I am letting my hair go gray she just kept staring at it. She now dyes her hair a flesh color & it's weird she wears her foundation too dark & matches her hair to it. But her boyfriend dyes his hair jet black so there you go.
My mother in law mentioned she doesn't talk to her friend of 50 years anymore that lives 2 house away. I know the friend did not like her boyfriend so I'm sure that has something to do with it.
In retrospect 3 things I remember: First I missed my opportunity AGAIN to say to the boyfriend why don't you spend any holidays with your daughter that lives around the corner?
Second we found a picture of my father in law when he was in his 20's & bought a hot rod, so I had them printed & put it in a frame with a photo of my husband with one of his hot rods when he was in his 20's & my son with his Mustang that he bought 6 years years ago in his early 20's. My son teared up when we gave it to him. I told him it was dad's idea. ( it wasn't) but I want him to think that it was.
Third the girlfriend got as framed picture of herself from my mother in law for Christmas & she thought it was the best gift ever. that should tell you alot
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