I just don't know

Ever since we switched to new software WHICH WE ALL TRAINED ON TOGETHER, people just keep screwing things up & leaving them for someone else to fix. Saying well I'm busy. WELL I'm busy fixing everyone else's mistakes.

A Woman in our accounting dept was complaining about working 8 hours a day & kept saying I'm not an accounting expert ( 7 times in a 24 minute conversation). I work 9 hours a day & I know more about accounting than her apparently.

Our software " expert" went to the head honchos with an issue I was having instead of telling me who to talk to & gave them complete misinformation so now it's screwed up even further.

I'm stressed all the time.

Then my husband starts with he wants to see his mother. I said I haven't seen mine in 3 years & it's not bad you should try it. He says well shes my mother, what if Mike did not want to see you ? I said it would never happen because when my son needs me I drop everything to help him. I have driven to his house to help him fix his car, install an air conditioner, check a breaker all kinds of things. I don't just act like I want him when it's convenient for me. I have even taken him for bloodwork so he didn't have to go alone.
He was upset when I said I am not sending her something for mothers day because of my pay cut  but meanwhile, I cleaned the house, scooped the litter & made my own dinner all things that did not cost anything to do but he didn't do.


He doesn't get why I won't forgive her for turning her back when we needed her, making plans with her boyfriend when he was supposed to get an nerve implant to help his seizures. Making her boyfriend a priority over her son time & time again. Then she says oh I'm here if you need help. My response in my head is Fuck you when I asked for help you were too busy don't play the hero now. She says oh your so strong taking care of everything I just stare at her like what choice do I have you parade him around like a circus freak oh my poor disabled son, loving to play the martyr but when he needs help you are too busy.
Then when he gets mad he says I treat him the way  his mother does. Which is complete BS, I used to fall for it but now I calmly say oh ok  give me an example so I can realize what I do that upsets you. Time & time again he can't come up with one & says well I don't want to talk about it now.

My mother calls to say I don't like your new hair ( a short pink cut) It's like she thought I might be feeling good about myself & she can't allow it.

I just don't know