Sometimes it's better to just take it all in

This weekend I met my sons , girlfriends mother & brother for the first time in 4 years. I went in with low expectations & I wasn't disappointed. As I get older I am learning to say less & listen more, I have learned some interesting things this way.

It started with us getting there & the mother & brother were still upstairs not ready. They came down & asked who we are, I said we are Mikes parents, the mother said Oh, like she was surprised. This was planned for like a month already but ok. It was only the two of us coming.

First her brother is about 4 ft 10 & wants my sons acceptance so bad that he will just agree with anything. He was a staunch gun hater  but my son believes in gun rights so now he does too.  His 1 year old is sick, he was coughing like a deep mucusy cough  but he wanted to go to a wrestling show with my son so instead of taking the baby to the clinic he went to the show & will get back on a plane with this crying miserable baby Tuesday. Every time the kid made a noise they shoved food in his mouth. My sons girlfriend said oh Mikes mom is really good with babies, hmmmm you have never seen me around a baby & there was no way I was picking up this miserable ball of mucus so they could sit on their asses & do nothing.

There are times I wanted to disagree with what he was saying but instead just let him talk. he talked about how babies should not be subjected to TSA screening, I said haven't you seen that people hide drugs in babies diapers? He said babies have human rights too! I said nothing. He went on to talk about himself & a guy he knows that got some disease from a southeast Asian hooker. He never stopped talking, at one point I'm pretty sure he was just saying random words to make noise. 

The mother can't look you in the eye, when she talks she looks at the ceiling like there is something mentally wrong with her. She mentioned about if her daughter had stayed with her old fiance the better life she would have. Her daughter tried to silence her quickly, but I caught it because I was listening instead of talking. At one point they were talking about chicken wings & she asked if chickens have legs. I kid you not. 

We sat there for an hour that felt like 5 & as we left I said it was nice to meet you. She said can I have a hug? Ummm ok? Then the brother came over & stuck out my hand to shake his hand & say it's nice to meet you , he pulled me in for a hug & then asked who I was again...... & said I wish I had met you last time I was here. I said I'm sure.

My assessment after sitting there listening, they are not the brightest bunch. It was like listening to children talk.  I really hope my son can pry himself out of this situation & get his life back on track.